Parenting journey is rewarding however it comes with its own set of downs as well. Both parents play a critical role in the upbringing of the child however, for a stay at home like myself the routine kind of completely revolves around my little one. This post is a heartfelt one.
As a new mother we are prone to high sensitivity towards our child, they become the center of our life. My little one is 4, in the last 5 years including my pregnancy journey life has taken a 360 degree change. The first year was critical and we are not born pro with handling kids, she was my first born and I have no experience of handling kids in the family, it was a complete learning experience for me. As she grew I thought that I would start channeling my life considering the new addition and get some time for myself, however I fell into the continuous loop of delaying it as I could not find the time to do it.
The pandemic era had its own plusses and minuses but again it kind of restricted my outlet for forming a routine. I was writing and doing multiple things which I did not do before still, the feeling of monotony which was there inside continued. I tried to get small breaks but it was not that rejuvenating. These feeling leaves you with dissatisfaction you get irritated with things, with your folks but the real reason hides somewhere inside you. Physically you may look fine but mental health is key to a good life. A travel experience gave me the deserved time I wanted for myself.
Many a times we know things but are unable to bring them in practice, I am no different. I don’t wish to preach many things but a few which worked for me and can be followed.
Take time to travel
Travelling has always had a positive impact on me. Be it a solo travelling or with your immediate family – spouse and child do it as many times as you can. You may ask me that what is the use of travelling with family, where is the “me time” in this case. Its true that you don’t have a dedicated me time in this scenario but you are exploring a new environment away from the daily chores of your life which is energizing in itself and who says who cant snatch away sometime for spa or swimming or any simple activity as simple as a walk just by yourself.
Pick A Hobby
As simple as it may sound its not easy to follow. I tried to pick small activities but either I did not pursue it further or left many things half way. There was and still a lack of consistency however, it doesn’t mean you give up. With lot of efforts I have tried to follow my passion which took a backseat. Don’t give up, with constant push you will be get there. I may be the slowest but I feel if I can follow all of you moms are superheroes, you will do it.
Healthy Living
Eat healthy and sleep a lot. Stay At Home Moms are sleep deprived I share from my experience. There were times when I could not complete 8 hrs. of sleep and felt lethargic throughout the day. I learnt it the hard way. A good 8 hrs. of sleep in essential for physical as well as mental well-being. Eat healthy, have your cheat days and sleep well.
Enjoy the small pleasures of life. Its ok to ask for support, we are already doing a lot. They say it right that it takes a whole village to bring up a child, mother plays the primary role but having a support system will be of great help. Cut off the negativity, easier said than done. With motherhood I have seen the pressures from family and friends increase we burden ourselves with unnecessary expectations – don’t do it.
These are some experiences which I have learnt the hard way. It has always been on my mind but sharing took some amount of courage. If it helps any single mother I would feel good that I could be of help.
Take care and remember – “No one can play your role better than you!”
“This post is a part of Wellness Hour Blog Hop by Rakhi Jayashankar and Swarnali Nath”
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